I'm very independent and I like my space (unless you give me TOO much of it). The words "I Love You" scare the shit out of me (even though I dream of the "happily ever after"). I like being in control (but I want the guy to lead).
OK, OK, I am TOTALLY the stereotypical girl. I'm just like the rest of them. No wonder men can't figure out what the hell women want. It's because we don't know what we want half the time. Yes I admit it, I have no idea what I want. Well, that's not totally true. What I want is my "happily ever after." But I have no idea how to get it. One thing I do know, that fairy tales are all hype. Lies I tell you, lies.
LIE NUMBER ONE: "Love at first sight"
This does not happen. Sure, some old couple that has been married 50 years might tell you, "it was love at first sight," but I guarantee they will also tell you it was a whole lot of work to get to where they are now. What I'm learning, if you ever want to "fall in love," well, you better get the heck off the couch. Because love just doesn't happen, you have to work at it.
LIE NUMBER TWO: "Your prince sweeps you off your feet and carries you into the sunset."
Stop it. Put me down...now! Do you know any guy that has ever done this? Better yet, what girl would let him? That is just highlighting insecurities, seriously. Let's be real, maybe in fairy tales this is romance, but not here, not now. A guy can't sweep a girl off her feet unless she lets him. And for me, this just ain't happening. What if he drops me? What if it's a sham? What if it's just "vacation dating" and it's not real? I don't know about you, but I have some trust issues that need sorting through before I can be whisked away into the sunset.
LIE NUMBER THREE: "Prince Charming."Prince Charming does not exist. Girls, you need to hear this again, Prince Charming does NOT exist. He was made up. He is a character in a fairy tale. We can't expect our men to be perfect. There has ever only been one perfect man, EVER, and I hate to break it to you ladies, but he was also God. So lets cut our guys some slack, and loose the list. Come on, we all have them, our checklist making up the qualities in our perfect guy. Well, in real life, I'm starting to realize that "the One" could be a totally amazing person and still not have all the check marks I'm looking for. That's because I'm looking for Prince freaking Charming, a fictitious character.
So what does all of this teach me? That I should hate hate fairy tales and curse Prince Charming's name? Well, maybe. More so, it's my reality check. In my relationship I freak out...a lot! I worry (What if this is going nowhere?). I fret (Is this how I'm supposed to feel?). I have not so good days, followed by even worse days sometimes. But, this is real life, and for now, I'm going to keep living into it.
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